During the initial stages of a romantic relationship, there is more often more emphasis on emotions—especially those of love, intimacy,
compassion, appreciation, and affinity—rather than physical intimacy. Romantic love is contrasted with platonic love which in all usages
precludes sexual relations, yet only in the modern usage does it take on a fully asexual sense, rather than the classical sense in which
sexual drives are sublimated. Sublimation tends to be forgotten in casual thought about love aside from its emergence in psychoanalysis
Romance is a state of mind. With the right mindset, you can make cleaning the bathroom romantic; if you have the wrong mindset, you
can turn a moonlit stroll on the beach into a fight." Mr. Godek, in his introduction to "1001 Ways to be Romantic" , further terms two types
of romance: obligatory and optional. Obligatory romance centers on celebrating assumed events. Examples include giving a birthday gift,
flowers for Valentine's Day, etc. The focus of optional romance, however, is on creating the added, day-to-day surprises. These are the
"just because gifts" such as giving massages or writing love letters.
Both romance types are important, but the latter is the more genuine version of true, classic romance. It's what we crave until we
experience--then treasure when we find it. True romance lies within and emerges when love is unconditional. It is an unconscious motion,
an unrehearsed affirmation, a way of relating to feeling simply because you are feeling. Though its interpretation will always be personal,
romance is obtainable and can thrive within every soul.
So, whether it involves beautiful flowers, a candle light dinner or admiring a spectacularly gorgeous sunset on the beach, let your imagination flow
and plan a most intimate and special moment for your loved one.